Okay, so this is a tough one to communicate period because there is no right or wrong answer to this and certainly no two females on the planet are exactly alike. Likewise, no couples are the same nor are the males trying to determine what weird and wonderful things fly through the female brain.
It is safe to say, though, that women do give off signals that are often
missed or completely misinterpreted. For example, when we’re trying something
on and we ask you what you think, we’d actually like you to give us an honest
response. Not, ‘You look like a fat whale in that,’ kind of honest
answer, but the sort that shows you’re actually trying to help us determine
whether or not to buy and or wear the item of clothing in question. If we do
happen to look like Moby Dick, it’s best to control your repulsed fascial
features and simply say, ‘Hmm, I don’t think that’s the right choice, maybe try
... (offering an alternative here is gold).’
Not so complicated, right?
There are about a million other examples of where communication between men
and women break down. Who does the housework and what percentage is fair? Did
she just fake her orgasm? Maybe I shouldn’t have bought that boat with our life
savings without consulting her first. She won’t notice if I start wearing her
lingerie or that I left our kid in the school parking lot for three hours, will
she?
Soooo many situations in which communication can break down. So, the
question is, how can men better understand how to deal with the female psyche?
Well, the truth from my perspective is that you’re completely fucked. Most of
the time we have no idea what we want until we want it, so it’s virtually
impossible. What I can say, though, is that better led communication comes from
knowing the other person in the relationship. What makes them happy? What
pisses them off? If you can find a way to read her body language before the
shit hits the fan, you’re onto a winner.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. I’m certainly no relationship expert.
Six years later and my hubby still leaves the wet mat on the bathroom floor and
throws his clothes next to the laundry basket instead of in it. He’s about a
second off getting a crowbar to the face because that’s me communicating
regularly with words regarding exactly what I want, but the truth is, he
chooses not to listen. Thus, a male guide to female communication is a waste of
time if you’re not willing to read the fine print.
We’re all gonna do what we want to do anyway, right?
Right.
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